The origin of the Lepcha Tradition of Lungten Bree started in the high villages of Upper Dzongu. The Lepchas believe that one Tarbong set his eyes upon another Rongmith who went by the name Nareep nyom. When he tried to woo her with his Rongkup charms she told him to come and ask for her hand to her parents in the village. The tradition of naamko bree started with the efforts made by Tarbong to wed his loved one the enchanting Nareep nyom.
A typical Lepcha wedding is not mere union of two souls but of two clans and as such requires sanction not from only from the elders of the family but from the departed souls of the ancestors. It is more of a spiritual union of two clans and as such serves to unite the community in both spiritual as well as mental levels. The tradition of Lepcha wedding serves to elaborate the very existence of the entire community among the hills and rivers of the Nye Mayel Lyang. Lepcha folklores are full of myths and legends of the great couples. In fact every male figure usually has a female counterpart. Eg. Fudong thing and Nazong Nyu, Thekong Tek and Nyukung Ngal, Punu Gaybu Achyok and Nalimit Pundee, Tarbong and Nareep Nyom, Rongnyu and Rongneet, Tendong Lho and Maenam Lho. This observation of the Lepcha myth categorically proves that the Lepcha tradition celebrates the union of the female and male.
So to deny this union and abstain from marriage amounts to denying one’s very heritage and one’s unique cultural identity.
As compared to other neighbouring communities Lepchas are more of Hunters and gatherers than agriculturists. The minimal agriculture practised by the Lepchas for ONGREY ZO and MONG is more of shifting type. The Lepchas traditionally never cultivated crops for commercial purposes. Thus the practise of wedding to increase manual labour did not feature in the social framework of the Lepchas unlike may communities we know. Today the advent of modernism also has not restricted the age old norms from being practised with rigid allegiance. But most Lepchas are still very wary when faced with matrimonial suggestions. Its time we packed our apprehensions and make bold decisions to carry on with what our ancestors left us.
The advent of modernism has brought about a social revolution and most of us have evolved to embrace what the times has to offer. We no longer have to toil out in the fields or hunt in the forests to scrape our meals for our extended families. Most of us have with our effort and trials secured decent paying jobs which I suppose can surely support two souls. In fact most Lepcha ladies too have joined the bandwagon of employment and are in some cases taking home packages that even we can’t imagine. Some Lepcha spinsters choose to marry non-lepchas as they are not offered with good Lepcha choices. But deep down they surely know that they would have preferred a Lepcha man. So this is where we fail to grasp the opportunity and end up in the corner with mere speculations that she would not have approved. There is no harm in trying once. The worst she can do is deny your attempt. And again with most Lepcha ladies in my mind I can safely assure that there are very less cases of denials. After all it’s not everyday she gets a good lepcha man like you asking for her hand in marriage. So just take the plunge maybe you will learn to swim later. If not there are zillions of akus, aneus, moteems, and boteems and anums and anoms who can lend a helping hand. Common we are Lepchas we are at the best when we are helping.
There is a certain hesitation in cases of unemployed bachelors. But its my observation most Lepcha parents are not so strict regarding the groom having regular service or etc. They would be more than pleased to hold their heads high in the community with a Lepcha son-in law. And as a man to another I would say you should at least have the courage and determination to support her before you go out asking her hand.
